Well it’s been a while. No excuse really, just what has seemed like a million other distractions getting in the way.
Some of these distractions have confirmed something I have long thought to be true. When you really believe you can do something, more often than not you actually can. The same can be said when you believe you won’t be able to do something. You can be pretty sure you won’t.
Yes there are things that really are out of reach for some of us. For example, given the fact that even my dog tries to hide his ears when I am singing along to my iPod, it is probably not wise to set myself a goal of winning a Grammy Award. I am talking about when there is no logical reason as to why we can’t succeed at something. You put off really trying things that you have every chance of succeeding in, just because you are scared it might not pan out or leave you looking foolish. We get used to identifying ourselves in a certain way and it is scary to think of ourselves differently. We often hide behind what we believe others will think of us, when we are really running away from who we will be if we make changes. It is a fear of putting yourself out there for others to see and, rightly or wrongly, judge us. Feeling uncertain of the outcome makes it sometimes seem easier just not to try. But we have to ask, how much are we missing out on because of these fears and beliefs?
The world’s most successful people often share with us stories of their success. And it usually involves them having a strong belief they can do what it is they have succeeded at. This may not have always been the case and they may have had to work at getting to that point, but in the end they believe they can and so they give it everything they have. This goes across the arts, business, sport and science. Believing that something is possible means you are less likely to give up, even when things get difficult. I love when we hear about someone’s apparent overnight success, only to find out they have been plugging away at whatever it is they had succeeded at for many years. They have taken all sorts of risks and made sacrifices along the way to get where they are.
So how do you change from wishing to doing? Small steps I think. Just do something towards a change. Something a little scary, but not so scary that you won’t actually do it. Once you have taken that first step, more often than not, you will find that it is not so bad and you then think ok, I can do what comes next. I like to keep reminding myself what will I think about this when I am eighty – will I regret not giving it a go more than I am going to regret what the outcome might be?
As the saying goes, if you keep doing what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got. I often think back to my first blog post. It was terrifying and took me ages to actually post it. Any vulnerability I may have been feeling was amplified by the thought that what I had written would be out there for the whole world to see. Then I thought about what was the worst that could happen and decided I was just going to put it out there. After all, it was part of my “F@#* it List”! And I am so glad I did. I have gained a new confidence that I would not have had otherwise. I know it is leading me towards things that, had I not taken this step, would not be possible.
How often have you said you wished you could do something then done nothing about it? Maybe it’s time to ask yourself what have you got to lose?
Til next time…